How Yoga can help YOU manage chronic stress, muscle tension from it + feel grounded & safe

How Yoga can help YOU reconnect with your body and mind, and deal with chronic stress & muscle tension? – What science has to say.

By Emilie, Manager & Yoga teacher at Younity studio – YOU Massage

Passionate about physical exercise since my youth, I noticed how increasingly lighter and brighter I felt after each Yoga class when I started as a student, in a deeper way that any other physical practice has done for me before. Recently the wonderful book “The body keeps the score” by Dr Van Der Kolk fed me with a lot of scientist expertise and documentation about how our emotional trauma is stored into our autonomic nervous system – fight or flight response – and therefore in our body. It provides some interesting pieces of information regarding the benefits of Yoga on such matter:

When people are chronically angry or scared, constant muscle tension ultimately leads to spasms, back pain, migraine headaches, fibromyalgia, and other forms of chronic pain (let’s add IBS, chronic fatigue, etc). They may visit multiple specialists, undergo expensive diagnosis tests, and be prescribed multiple medication, some of which may provide temporary relief but all of which fail to address the underlying issues.


`Scientific methods has confirmed that changing the way one breathes can improve problem with anger, depression, and anxiety and that yoga can positively affect such wide-ranging medical problems as high blood pressure, elevated stress hormone secretion, asthma, and low-back pain.
In their 2014 studies, Yoga turned out to be a terrific way to regain relationship with the interior world with a caring, loving, sensual relationship to the self. If you are not aware of what your body needs, you can’t take care of it. If you can’t feel hunger, you can’t nourish yourself. If you mistake anxiety for hunger, you may eat too much. And if you can’t feel when you are satiated, you’ll keep eating. This is why cultivating sensory awareness is such a critical aspect of trauma recovery. Most traditional therapies downplay or ignore the moment-to-moment shifts in our inner sensory world.


In yoga you focus your attention on your breathing and your sensations on your moment to moment. You begin to notice the connection between your emotions and your body – perhaps how anxiety about doing a pose throw you actually off balance. You begin to experiment with changing the way you feel. Will taking a deep breath relieve that tension in your shoulder? Will focusing on your exhalations produce a sense of calm?

Simply noticing what you feel fosters emotional regulation, and it helps you to stop trying to ignore what is going on inside you. As I often tell my students, the two most important phrases in therapy, as in Yoga, are “Notice that” and “What happens next?” Once you start approaching your body with curiosity rather than with fear, everything shifts.


In Yoga you learn that sensations rise to a peak and then fall. In a challenging position, you may first feel a sense of defeat or resistance, anticipating that you won’t be able to tolerate the feelings brought up by this particular position. A good yoga teacher will encourage you to just notice any tension while timing what you feel with the flow of your breath: “We’ll be holding this position for ten breaths.” This helps you anticipate the end of discomfort and strengthens your capacity to deal with physical and emotional distress. Awareness that all experience is transitory changes your perspective on yourself.”

Yoga is much more than a simple physical exercise, it can help you improve your mind deeply and sustainably, find love and peaceful confidence within yourself. It has been a game changer for myself and so many others. Let it become your game changer. Try out one of our Yoga classes in Southampton in our Younity – look for Yoga at Younity on Google 🙂


Source:
– Dr Van Der Kolk – The body keeps the score, Chapter Learning to inhabit your body: Yoga, P318-329, 2014, Penguin Psychology

Mental health group sessions with Roxy at You Massage & Therapy Studio

You might have noticed that since February, You Massage (we) have started hosting Mental Health groups ran by Mental Health Southampton, a project that aims to build a mental health-friendly community in Southampton by organizing in-person groups, discussing mental health-related themes and educating individuals on well-being tools.
The groups are run by Roxy, a mental health practitioner with a passion for educating the community on mental health and well-being. They run on a monthly basis and welcome anyone who is interested in learning more about mental health, either due to facing their own mental health struggles, knowing someone who does, or just pure curiosity!

Drawing on from her experience, Roxy has become passionate about the importance of
maintaining our mental health by regularly using evidence-based well-being tools, such as mindfulness, journaling, breathing exercises and gratitude, rather than only seeking help when our mental health is already suffering. She is also passionate about the importance of community and the sense of belonging and being accepted as who we are, which are basic
human needs.
We live in fast-paced, stressful times where we tend to overlook the importance of our
mental health, and keeping a healthy balance of achieving, connecting with loved ones and performing activities we enjoy. This is reflected in the rise in mental health issues as we have become more disconnected from ourselves, each other and the environment.

‘A recurrent theme I see in many people who suffer from mental health issues is a lack of community, of supportive relationships, of deeper connection with others, which is what inspired me to start these groups, as safe spaces where people can come and meet others and listen compassionately to each other. A safe, non-judgemental space where people can be authentically themselves, wherever they find themselves in their life, whether they want to share and celebrate a win, or share something they’ve struggled with.’ – says Roxy

Every group has a specific theme that the facilitator introduces at the beginning of the
session, which then leads to a group discussion where participants can share their opinions and experiences if they wish to, while the others listen with compassion. After the sharing is over, the facilitator will introduce about a well-being tool and the scientific evidence for it, and demonstrate it for the group to try it.
The groups are donation-based with a minimum suggested donation of £5 either cash or through PayPal which helps keep the groups running. Before attending we encourage you to fill in an intake form to let us know why you are willing to attend and what you hope to get out of the groups.

You can get in touch with Roxy via email, at mentalhealthsouthampton@gmail.com
or via Instagram at @mentalhealthsouthampton ,as well as join the Facebook group ,
Mental Health Southampton Support Group.

Next Session is tonight 24.03.23 at 6pm

Introducing Holistic-Thai-Sports Therapist: Chris

Greetings to all!

Excited to establish myself as the newest therapist operating out of: You Massage Southampton.

Please allow me to share a little of my journey thus far:

Having been told in teens that I had a natural gift, I began my studies and later qualified as a Holistic Therapist in 2004. From a very young age, I had always been drawn to Asian culture, so knew instantly that I was destined to further my knowledge and training with traditional Asian massage techniques.  I roamed South East Asia and eventually settled in Northern Thailand to study Traditional Thai Massage at the prestigious TMC School. I was blessed enough to train in ancient Thai techniques perfected by the late Mama Lek Chaiya and her legendary Nervetouch system. From there I was one of the lucky few that studied Meridians and Acupuncture at Mungkala Chinese Medicine Centre, and became the embodiment of healthy-vegan living, staying in a bamboo hut within a remote Buddhist temple built beside a jungle waterfall and dabbling in Shamanic rituals.

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Mindfulness Courses – coming soon to YOU Massage Therapy, Southampton

Mindfulness for a Contented Life

Article by Sylvia Clare, Mindfulness Teacher at YOU Massage Therapy, Southampton

Mindfulness is in the health news so often now it seems to be a new discovery, but really it has been with us for thousands of years in one form or another. Most people are mindful at times but they don’t realise it or know how to develop or harness that skill to enhance their sense of wellbeing and inner peace.

There are a lot of books and self-help takes around which claim to enable you to develop your mindfulness practice but in over two decades of teachings I have met so many people who tried it that way and then found something missing in the experiences they had until they were able to learn from an experienced teacher.

Mindful person looking over calm water

Stable Heart and Mind – greater resilience to life generally

Mindfulness enables you to remain more emotionally stable through the challenges that we all face in life. As you learn and develop the skills of regulating your emotional and cognitive activities they become less reactive and more balanced so that in a crisis you are more able to maintain calm balanced ways of managing and dealing with it.

Better Relationships – less conflict and greater intimacy

These develop from better self-awareness and compassion for others and the places we live in. We cannot change the outer world but we can adapt the inner world so that the outer world is less intrusive or stressful.

Acceptance – and gratitude for the life we have whilst still moving forward

We cannot always have what we want but often even if we get what we want in life we are not satisfied for long. Learning mindfulness helps us become accepting of what we need and frees us up from the dictates of a materialistic and consumeristic culture, enabling us to live simply and with greater freedom from external pressures.

Letting Go and not allowing past hurts to continue to damage your present and future

So often we are hurt and then when we want to move on we find we cannot let go of the fear of being hurt again. This frequently leads us to repeat the same unhappy cycles and patterns in life. We all talk about letting go but very few people show you how this is done in a way that gradually works more and more powerfully until it is your default mode.  Continue reading