Mindfulness for a Contented Life
Article by Sylvia Clare, Mindfulness Teacher at YOU Massage Therapy, Southampton
Mindfulness is in the health news so often now it seems to be a new discovery, but really it has been with us for thousands of years in one form or another. Most people are mindful at times but they don’t realise it or know how to develop or harness that skill to enhance their sense of wellbeing and inner peace.
There are a lot of books and self-help takes around which claim to enable you to develop your mindfulness practice but in over two decades of teachings I have met so many people who tried it that way and then found something missing in the experiences they had until they were able to learn from an experienced teacher.
Stable Heart and Mind – greater resilience to life generally
Mindfulness enables you to remain more emotionally stable through the challenges that we all face in life. As you learn and develop the skills of regulating your emotional and cognitive activities they become less reactive and more balanced so that in a crisis you are more able to maintain calm balanced ways of managing and dealing with it.
Better Relationships – less conflict and greater intimacy
These develop from better self-awareness and compassion for others and the places we live in. We cannot change the outer world but we can adapt the inner world so that the outer world is less intrusive or stressful.
Acceptance – and gratitude for the life we have whilst still moving forward
We cannot always have what we want but often even if we get what we want in life we are not satisfied for long. Learning mindfulness helps us become accepting of what we need and frees us up from the dictates of a materialistic and consumeristic culture, enabling us to live simply and with greater freedom from external pressures.
Letting Go and not allowing past hurts to continue to damage your present and future
So often we are hurt and then when we want to move on we find we cannot let go of the fear of being hurt again. This frequently leads us to repeat the same unhappy cycles and patterns in life. We all talk about letting go but very few people show you how this is done in a way that gradually works more and more powerfully until it is your default mode. Continue reading